Yes, that is what I, along with many other EFT practitioners, have come to believe as we have witnessed its truth over and over again with our clients. We might as well have inherited them just like we did our hair color, eye color, and height. So what exactly are limiting beliefs or the “writings on our walls” as EFT Founder Gary Craig refers to them? Well, simply they are tales we have come to believe as actual truths because they were passed down generation after generation to us, usually by authoritative figures like our parents, older siblings, teachers, and religious figures. They are ideas we usually never even think to question because they simply have been all we know and experienced, thereby making it our only reality. Simply put, if you have only known dark, you cannot know light because it has never been yours to appreciate.
Here is a little story to help illustrate my point:
A newly married couple is in the kitchen and the young husband is watching as his wife is preparing a pot roast for dinner. He grows confused when he sees his wife chop off the meat ends before putting it in the pot. Not understanding the purpose of this other than wasting good meat, he asks her why she needed to do that. She looks up at him and gives him a perplexed look as she says, “Well I don’t know, that’s just how I always saw my mom do it”. Now she grows curious and phones her mom to find out the reason behind this necessary pot roast making step. Upon hearing the question, mom grows quiet and then says, “Well truthfully, I don’t know, that’s just the way I always saw my grandma make it”. Well now mom is intrigued so she calls grandma to find out the big reason for purposely chopping of the ends of the meat, there has to be an explanation, right? Well, mom was right; there sure was a purpose to it. Without any hesitation grandma explains, “Well, we didn’t have much money so I only had one pot and the meat was too big for it otherwise.”
This is exactly how our limiting beliefs are handed down from generation to generation. They have the power to run our lives without us even knowing it as most are at a subconscious level, though that does not mean we cannot become aware of them and change them.
Here are some very common limiting beliefs:
“All men/women are liars/cheats”
“You have to work hard to be successful.”
“It is selfish too ask for too much.”
“Real men do not cry.”
“It is weak to show emotion.”
“Children should be seen and not heard”
“I have to be perfect to be loved.”
“I have to put myself last or I am selfish.”
Therefore if you have a limiting beliefs running around in your subconscious mind saying, “You cannot be an honest person and make a lot of money” ; how can you possibly expect to generate any more money than that which is in this imaginary safety bracket (probably not much from what you are making now)? Your conscious mind wants to make more money, but guess what? – the subconscious mind ,being more powerful, always wins. SO until you can release these negative beliefs, you will feel like a hamster spinning its wheel and getting nowhere. This is why diets and will power don’t work, why you keep picking partners that cheat on you, and overall why life seems to feel so hard!
However, EFT is magical in bringing up our personal limiting beliefs and releasing them in a dramatically short period of time. EFT allows us to peel the layers of the onion so we can get to our core limiting beliefs that are creating the circumstances we are so unhappy with, and releasing them for good. This then allows us to create new experiences as the limiting beliefs are no longer there to keep us in this tug of war.
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Many hugs,
Diana
